In the world of organizational change and unapologetic leadership, we often hear the metaphor of being “invited to the table.” This coveted invitation represents inclusion, influence, and the power to shape decisions that impact the organization’s future. However, what happens when you find yourself at the table but in the wrong seat? Or, is the table too big, too small, poorly made, or deteriorating? Or worse, when the table is surrounded by poor house guests who undermine your presence? In these moments, it’s crucial to understand the dynamics of organizational culture and how to navigate the complexities of finding your rightful place, and when you are there…what will you do?
With so many questions, I’ll add a few more. What happens when you realize that from a distance, you are looking at that table you built for someone else? Or the person sitting at the table is there not of their own merit but by the sweat equity of your own doing. Being envious is not a character trait, but it does give you the ability to understand who you are, what you are, and who you serve.
When you’re invited to the table, you enter a pre-existing culture with its own norms, values, and power structures. It’s essential to recognize that not all seats at the table are created equal, and the seat you’re offered may not align with your true potential and value. Too often, we seek validation from others, begging for a seat at a table that may not even align with our values and goals. We give away our power, forgetting that we are the hosts of our own party. Instead of settling for a seat that doesn’t fit, we must recognize our worth and build our own table.
Building your table
Building your own table means creating a space where your voice is heard, your ideas are valued, and your contributions are celebrated. It means surrounding yourself with individuals who uplift and support you, rather than those who cast you aside or relegate you to subservient roles. As Shirley Chisholm once said, ‘If they don’t give you a seat at the table, bring a folding chair.’ This powerful quote encapsulates the essence of creating your own space when the offered seat doesn’t align with your true potential and value.
“Embracing your unique style and shape, even if it doesn’t conform to the traditional mold of the table.” Dr. Darryl S. Diggs, Jr.
When you build your own table, you have the power to shape the culture and dynamics of your environment. You can create a space that is inclusive, empowering, and conducive to growth. You can invite others to join you, not as mere guests, but as equal partners in shaping the future. However, building your own table doesn’t mean isolating yourself from the larger organization. It means having the confidence to bring your unique perspective and value to the larger table, even if it means challenging the status quo. It means advocating for yourself and others who may be overlooked or undervalued.
Claim Your Seat
Some seats may be ornate and grand, commanding attention and respect, while others are simple and unassuming. The challenge lies in identifying which seat truly belongs to you and having the confidence to claim it as your own. As you navigate the complexities of organizational culture, remember that finding your seat at the table is a journey of self-discovery and empowerment. It requires introspection, resilience, and the courage to stand up for yourself and others.
By building their own table, the leader creates a space where their vision for a just and equitable education system is actively pursued, inviting others to join in dismantling oppressive structures and ensuring every student has access to the resources and opportunities they need to thrive.
So, as you approach the metaphorical table of your organization, take a moment to assess the seat you’ve been offered. Does it truly reflect your value and potential? If not, don’t be afraid to build your own table, one that celebrates your unique style and shape. Embrace the power of being the host, and invite others to join you in creating a culture of inclusion, growth, and empowerment. Remember, your seat at the table is not just a place to sit but a platform to stand up and make a difference.
“…when you see me, see you.” Jay-Z
Dr. Darryl S. Diggs, Jr.
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